Self-Care Challenge (Day 63): Loving the Middle Seat

planeOkay, this is admittedly a first world problem, but the idea can be applied in many situations, so keep that in mind.

I’ve traveled enough to know that travelers can be quite inflexible when it comes to choosing seats on an airplane.

Southwest’s unique boarding process probably eliminates some of the more hostile exchanges between seatmates, but other airlines are moving targets.

Here’s what I have observed:

Those who choose aisle seats mean business. They become visibly angry if someone even hints that they are posturing to request a seat swap. I mean, how dare you think they would be okay with sitting by a window? And, likewise, those who select window seats are equally hard to budge. After all, where do you expect them to sleep with nothing to lean into?

On 99% of flights, I witness these near-violent exchanges from the middle seat. Since my husband was not designed to fit into the average coach airplane seat, I usually voluntarily take the middle one so he has more room. 

To be clear, I don’t love the middle seat. In the middle, you have the pleasure of getting to know strangers on a much more intimate level: their breathing patterns, snoring tendencies, body odors, food preferences and eating habits. And sometimes you also get to learn some very personal things you wish you didn’t know: the results of their x-rays and other medical tests, details of their relationship problems or a laundry list of their favorite complaints about life. The middle seat is like spinning a roulette wheel. The odds are pretty good there will be some sort of drama.

No one wants the middle seat, but nearly a third of passengers get stuck with it.

That’s why I’ve decided to love it. By focusing on the good things about the circumstance, I have learned to accept and even enjoy the experience. I’ve met some really great and interesting people, I know that my husband is more comfortable, I only have to climb over one person when I have to use the lavatory, it’s warmer in the middle, the lighting is better–and no one (I mean not ever) asks to switch seats with me.

How do you react to life’s inconveniences? The choice is yours. Learning to love your circumstances, whatever they may be, is a gift to yourself. 

Stacy Fisher-Gunn
Stacy Fisher-Gunn

I'm a Self-Care Coach, Registered Dietitian Nutritionist, Certified Diabetes Educator, Author, and Founder of Living Upp. This community is a reflection of my desire to create an inspiring gathering place for people who want to explore self-care and live up to their fullest potential.

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