On day 287 of my 366-day self-care challenge, I remained open. Staying open to new ideas (especially after I’ve already made a decision) hasn’t always been easy for me. In fact, for most of my adult life I’ve held on so tightly to my master plans that the mere suggestion that there might be another way – or (gasp!) a better way – used to make me smoosh my lips together and grind my teeth.
But I must admit, the feeling that comes with remaining open has been a much better way to live, even if it causes me to redesign some of my master plans.
When we’re so tied to a specific outcome that we’re unwilling to even consider an alternative, we do ourselves a disservice – both in terms of our health and missed opportunities.
Besides, resistance is a waste of energy. What we’re really saying is “no” to an easier, smarter, or more efficient ways of doing things. That’s like saying “yes” to a harder life.
This week I was presented with an interesting opportunity, one that I probably wouldn’t have even considered in the past. But this one happens to align quite well with some of my bigger goals, and I found myself sitting back in my chair tapping my chin with my index finger and thinking, Would this be a good investment of my time?
The answer was yes.
Regardless of what I ultimately decide, being open to the possibility of amending my roadmap felt really good. While I do have a clear vision for my future, I’ve learned that not being tied to the outcome, and letting it unfold as it should, is what makes life so fun.
That said, this shift in mindset is part of my self-care practice because it doesn’t come easily for me. I have to recognize when I feel resistant to a new idea. I have to remind myself that most of the time it doesn’t really matter that much how I realize my vision. What matters is that I realize my vision.