Tag Archives: boundaries

How to Create More Ease

boat on lac leman in rolle, switzerland

Overfunctioning has become the norm and it’s making us sick. In 2018, a survey conducted by the American Psychological Association found that 1 in 5 adults don’t think they’re doing enough to manage stress. It shows. Ongoing stress has been linked to obesity, diabetes, and other chronic conditions. But the truth is, life doesn’t have […]

Ghosting

yellow plug

Have you ever pulled the plug on a relationship without warning or explanation? I have. Well, at least that was my intention. While dating a guy in my early twenties, I had the sudden realization in the middle of the night that we weren’t a good fit, and that I needed to end the relationship. […]

Are You a Misunderstood Martyr?

Stephanie Myer, the Martyr Coach

In this episode of Conversations with Smart People, I interviewed Stephanie Myer, The Martyr Coach, to better understand what it means to be a martyr. It’s a label that carries a lot of judgment. As Myer describes on her website, “Martyrs can be put down, eye-rolled and snickered at. We’re seen as melodramatic, self-imposed victims […]

Self-Care Challenge (Day 243): Saying No

self-care coaching for better health

On day 243 of my 366-day self-care challenge, I explored saying no as an act of self-care. We always have a choice. How we spend our time, money and energy reflects our values, but sometimes it also reflects our ability (or inability) to set boundaries. In their book Boundaries*, authors Henry Cloud and John Townsend explain that boundaries […]

Self-Care Challenge (Day 184): Setting Boundaries

barbed wire fence with the coast of maui in the background

On day 184 of my 366-day self-care challenge, I explored setting boundaries as an act of self-care. This post relates to one of the more difficult topics I’ve written about to date–mostly because it has taken me some effort to find the silver lining. I do my best to not focus on the not-so-great things that happen in […]