Focusing on Solutions

small red mini dachshund

My dog almost died today.

And it would have been my fault.

In the hustle and bustle of the morning’s flurry of activities, I inadvertently gave my 10-pound miniature dachshund, Zoey, a dose of medication that was intended for our 90-pound German Shepherd.

The moment I realized what I’d done, I felt sick.

Frantically, I pulled up a web page and began searching for the signs, symptoms, dosage calculations and treatments associated with the medication. And, after finding a handful of conflicting answers, I darted out the door with my purse under one arm and my pooch under the other.

Thankfully, she’s fine now. The emergency vet administered an emetic after discovering the dosage was 7 times the level that was appropriate for her body weight. We got there in time. And fortunately, Zoey accepts apologies in the form of treats.

But moments like this are a reminder that we all goof up sometimes. Despite our best efforts to sail through life smoothly, developing habits and routines that put us on auto-pilot, we still make mistakes.

And when our mistakes have a negative impact on others, it’s a bit more difficult to accept. So, as I sat in the waiting room this morning, some unkind thoughts starting swirling through my head. “Stacy, how could you be so stupid?!?” “Was getting to the gym really so important that you couldn’t spend that extra minute to make sure your animals were taken care of?” “What were you thinking?!?”

You know the thoughts I’m talking about. The ones that are accompanied by guilt and sadness and negativity.

But when I remembered that my 3-pound brain was causing me to have those useless thoughts, I managed to turn my attention to the more important thing: to solve the problem by focusing on the solution. 

Do you find it hard to forgive yourself when you make mistakes? Are you unnecessarily hard on yourself when you goof up? Do you continue to punish yourself long after you’ve learned from your experiences? By focusing on solutions rather than problems, we can work through life’s difficult moments faster and enjoy more of life’s beautiful moments. That’s what self-care is all about.

Tonight, rather than beating myself up for making a mistake, I’m going to spend the evening in gratitude, cuddling with sweet little Zoey.

Building an Artificial Pancreas: An Interview with Dana Lewis

pink diabetes supply kit

When most of us think about patient empowerment, we think about choosing a health care provider or researching treatment options. But Dana Lewis took patient empowerment to a whole new level in 2013, when she set out to find a solution for a small problem: the alarm on her insulin monitor wasn’t waking her up at night to alert her of severely low blood sugars.

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Initially, she brought her concerns directly to the industry, but to her dismay they responded with comments like, “It’s loud enough” and “Most people wake up to it.” Fortunately for her, and for many others around the globe who are struggling to manage diabetes, she didn’t accept those answers.

I first met Dana while attending a Meetup on Health Care Design in Seattle. She was a panelist who shared her personal journey–specifically, how she co-created the DIY Artifical Pancreas System when no one was able to deliver one. As I listened to her story, I remember thinking to myself this is the most powerful example of self-care I’ve ever heard!

How exactly did she do it?

She reached out to other smart people who had the answers she needed, and with a “design and build” mindset, they promptly got to work. And after months of testing and tweaking, the OpenAPS solution was born.

The cost? About $150 USD on average.

As you might imagine there are a few risks involved with building Do-It-Yourself medical devices. There’s no FDA stamp of approval, no experts standing by to make updates or repairs, and device failures could result in complications. Still, it’s easy to see why the idea is so compelling: often, the alternative isn’t much better. For example, not awakening to a low blood sugar alarm can be fatal. Suffice it to say that managing complex medical conditions like diabetes is anything but easy, even with today’s modern technology.

Lewis admits this project has been “a gradual awakening,” or a process, rather than something she simply decided to do. It certainly didn’t go from idea to reality overnight.

“It was a realization that we don’t have to be passive recipients of care as patients.”

Indeed, we are the owners of our health just as much as we are recipients of care.

Her mantra, we’re not waiting, tells the story quite clearly. And she certainly isn’t waiting. Neither are the more than 200 others around the globe who are now using a DIYOpenAPS system to not only manage their chronic condition, but also to improve their quality of life.

For Dana, self-care involves getting enough sleep, spending time with family, and reading. Like so many of us, she understands that when she doesn’t get what she needs, it impacts everything else.

Empowerment lies at the heart of self-care. It’s taking ownership of what we need and then experimenting until we get it right.
Design thinking can be applied to an endless number of life’s challenges. If you’re feeling particularly empowered by this story, you can learn more about the Open Loop Artificial Pancreas System by contacting Dana directly or exploring these links:

Dana Lewis
dana@openAPS.org
@danamlewis #werenotwaiting #DIYPS #OpenAPS
www.OpenAPS.org
Background and details on how Dana built her OpenAPS: https://diyps.org/2016/05/12/how-i-designed-a-diy-closed-loop-artificial-pancreas/
Why DIY-ing #OpenAPS is important: https://diyps.org/2015/03/31/why-the-diy-part-of-openaps-is-important/

Please Note: The Artificial Pancreas System, like other DIY devices, is not FDA approved, which means individuals assume any and all risks associated with its use. Please talk with your doctor before undertaking a DIY project like this, and be sure to keep them informed of your progress.

Other Exciting News: This hybrid closed loop technology is the future of treatment for diabetes, and several versions of it are currently in the commercial development pipeline. It’s expected that an FDA approved product will be be available in 2017.

Self-Care Activity List: 366 Ideas

8 Dimensions of Self-Care

Having trouble coming up with fun and interesting self-care ideas?

Last year, I took on a self-care challenge. For each of the 366 days in 2016, I experimented with a new self-care activity and then blogged about it.

What would you add to the list? Be creative and come up with your own bucket list of activities that reflect your personal style, needs and priorities.

  1. Enjoy a fermented food (or learn to ferment something yourself)
  2. Set intentions for the next day, week, month or year
  3. Express gratitude
  4. Take a walk in the woods
  5. Bake whole grain bread
  6. Include strength training exercises at least 2 days each week
  7. Get a haircut
  8. Get vaccinated
  9. Give blood
  10. Buy nothing (give something instead)
  11. Use a pressure cooker
  12. Get equipped for fitness
  13. Tidy up
  14. Drink enough water
  15. Get a pedicure
  16. Travel (without stress)
  17. Enjoy a sunset
  18. Listen to the ocean
  19. Go fishing
  20. Visit a fruit stand
  21. Meet new people
  22. Enjoy the sunshine (and then apply sunscreen)
  23. Overcome a fear
  24. Give yourself a break
  25. Sleep in
  26. Get a massage
  27. Cook with garlic
  28. Journal
  29. Walk and work
  30. Pay taxes
  31. Do “The Work”
  32. Relax by a fire
  33. Peruse the bookstore
  34. Fold laundry
  35. Drink tea
  36. Write a haiku
  37. Take a road trip
  38. Play in the snow
  39. Spend time with friends
  40. Floss
  41. Join (or start) a book club
  42. Eat local
  43. Meditate
  44. Continue education
  45. Use affirmations
  46. Receive gifts
  47. Relax with aromatherapy
  48. Eat colorfully
  49. Accept what is
  50. Volunteer at the food bank
  51. Snuggle with pets
  52. Taste
  53. Shop for groceries
  54. Zentangle
  55. Learn CPR
  56. Reminisce
  57. Garden
  58. Explore new possibilities
  59. Go out for breakfast
  60. Define your “enough”
  61. Change your mind
  62. Chase good weather
  63. Love the middle seat
  64. Cool off with shave ice
  65. Explore new places
  66. Smell the roses
  67. Go to the beach
  68. See the bigger picture
  69. Be a tourist
  70. Think in traffic
  71. Get a mammogram
  72. Read scripture
  73. Make a contribution
  74. Lounge
  75. Be part of a community
  76. Cry
  77. Practice good skin care
  78. Get certified
  79. Prune what’s no longer useful
  80. Press the pause button
  81. Listen
  82. Be quiet
  83. Eat green
  84. Celebrate
  85. Meander
  86. Notice nature
  87. Make the holidays healthier
  88. Plan
  89. Go cycling
  90. Reflect
  91. Recover
  92. Try fermented dairy
  93. Walk the dog
  94. Take a nap
  95. Build a support system
  96. Write a book
  97. Calm down
  98. Be vulnerable
  99. Set boundaries
  100. Laugh
  101. Play games
  102. Dine alone
  103. Walk (in the airport or elsewhere)
  104. Plan a menu
  105. Ask for help
  106. Cook for yourself
  107. Hug a pet
  108. Give gifts of gratitude
  109. Find inspiring spaces
  110. Talk yourself into fitness
  111. Listen to an audio book
  112. Be inspired
  113. Stay in
  114. Understand your impact
  115. Set weekly goals
  116. Use an iron skillet
  117. Stay in touch with friends
  118. Do the dishes
  119. Forgive yourself
  120. Let the oven do it
  121. Go to the doctor
  122. Work in the yard
  123. Savor something
  124. Make new friends
  125. Plant some herbs
  126. Build new skills
  127. Assemble (or reassemble) a first-aid kit
  128. Make a toast to a memory
  129. Shop the farmers’ market
  130. Say thank you
  131. Give feedback
  132. Hug a tree
  133. Take a hike
  134. Read the (entire) Affordable Care Act
  135. Make broth cubes
  136. Bake a cheesecake
  137. Make a breakfast bowl
  138. Use a foam roller
  139. Change your sheets
  140. Eat 5 (to 9) servings of fruits and vegetables each day
  141. Network
  142. Entertain
  143. Sit in stillness
  144. Think positively
  145. Make chicken noodle soup
  146. Do something you don’t want to do
  147. Don’t worry (be happy)
  148. Self-direct your care
  149. Admire art
  150. Eat some cherries (or another in season fruit)
  151. Watch a game
  152. Love lentils
  153. Cultivate awareness
  154. Review your finances
  155. Fuel up for a workout
  156. Celebrate success
  157. Work to physical exhaustion
  158. Take the day off
  159. Eat a big salad
  160. Apologize
  161. Spend time with family
  162. Go sightseeing
  163. Visit a museum
  164. Marvel
  165. Color
  166. Start a bullet journal
  167. Count your blessings
  168. Bake a spaghetti squash
  169. Work in bursts
  170. Drink coffee
  171. Go to the gym
  172. Pick berries
  173. Go to the dentist
  174. Take a yoga class
  175. Track your goals
  176. Lean into discomfort
  177. Stretch
  178. Give gifts
  179. Make yourself a bouquet
  180. Take shorter showers
  181. Test your day for flow
  182. Buy new exercise clothes
  183. Get an eye exam
  184. Set boundaries
  185. Clean your yoga mat
  186. Blend a smoothie bowl
  187. Ferment pickles
  188. Volunteer at a community garden
  189. Take a home-canning class
  190. Bake zucchini bread
  191. Get (and stay) connected
  192. Learn self-defense
  193. Attend a virtual retreat
  194. Envision
  195. Care for your feet
  196. Breathe deeply
  197. Make chicken salad
  198. Go camping
  199. Listen to music
  200. Use a sugar scrub
  201. Window shop
  202. Buy yourself a gift
  203. Make a Thai salad
  204. Organize your recipes
  205. Bake blueberry muffins
  206. Make a (healthy) Waldorf salad
  207. Study
  208. Try a new recipe
  209. Organize your mind
  210. Eat lunch at the park
  211. Do some gratitude journaling
  212. Be proactive
  213. Try again
  214. Brew beer
  215. Rest
  216. Learn from others
  217. Research
  218. Get a scalp massage
  219. Stop
  220. Stargaze
  221. Go floating
  222. Take a moment
  223. Get a manicure
  224. Weigh the pros and cons
  225. Share your story
  226. Travel back in time
  227. Snack
  228. Walk with a friend
  229. Savor salmon
  230. Admire apples
  231. Enjoy a mocktail
  232. Go meatless
  233. Ask for a Box
  234. Indulge in an Acai Bowl
  235. Understand the Science of Happiness
  236. Rediscover Old Recipes
  237. Experiment with Eggplant
  238. Eat (or at least try) Sushi
  239. Carry an EpiPen (if you have been advised to)
  240. Work Outside
  241. Crack Fresh Eggs
  242. Eat Tomatoes (off the vine)
  243. Say No
  244. Buy a New Pillow
  245. Talk About Ideas
  246. Monitor Your Performance
  247. Clean Your Refrigerator
  248. Treat a Minor Injury
  249. Change the Air Filter
  250. Make Moroccan Meatballs
  251. Choose My Circles Wisely
  252. Begin Again
  253. Get Acupuncture
  254. Plan a Vacation
  255. Remember
  256. Try Matcha Tea
  257. Get New Socks
  258. Commit
  259. Speak Up
  260. Prepare a Snack Board
  261. Update Your Wardrobe
  262. Sort & Purge
  263. Tour a Food Forest
  264. Be True To Yourself
  265. Donate to Charity
  266. Coordinate a Walking Meeting
  267. Ask Questions
  268. Get Your Hands Dirty
  269. Pack a Mobile Emergency Kit
  270. Plant a Tribute
  271. Enjoy a Sweet Treat
  272. Connect Dots
  273. Sip Bubbles
  274. Eat Fresh Figs
  275. Celebrate
  276. Melt
  277. Moisturize
  278. Catch Up
  279. Evaluate Your Social Media Activity
  280. Be Negative
  281. Understand Your Personality
  282. Hire a Coach
  283. Read a Book
  284. Spend Quality Time
  285. Create a Manifestation Space
  286. Reconnect with a Friend
  287. Stay Open
  288. Prepare for Emergencies
  289. Set a Deadline
  290. Do Something for Love
  291. Make Space
  292. Cook with rosemary (or other culinary herbs)
  293. Arrive (rather than impose)
  294. Buy coffee for a stranger
  295. Make a vegan dish
  296. Learn more about your body
  297. Just be
  298. Establish a morning ritual
  299. Give a random gift
  300. Try reflexology
  301. Try new exercises
  302. Vote
  303. Experiment with a sourdough starter (or other cultured food)
  304. Organize your personal space
  305. Collaborate
  306. Write down your soul
  307. Learn bonsai
  308. Create an afternoon of self-care
  309. Island (s)hop with a friend
  310. Crochet (or create something)
  311. Rake leaves
  312. Live vicariously
  313. Sit with ambivalence
  314. Gain an understanding of politics
  315. Evaluate what’s essential
  316. Clear your calendar
  317. Ask for what you need
  318. Practice something that’s difficult for you
  319. Maintain financial harmony
  320. Have a kind disagreement
  321. Support a friend
  322. Brainstorm
  323. Learn something new
  324. Rearrange furniture
  325. Decorate
  326. See your favorite band live
  327. Try reiki
  328. Bake a pie
  329. Prepare a special meal
  330. Watch a funny movie
  331. Look up
  332. Do chores early
  333. Make a list
  334. Email yourself ideas
  335. Arrive early
  336. Warm up
  337. Learn to knit (or some other form of art)
  338. Notice the little things
  339. Watch it snow
  340. Drive slowly
  341. Choose theme words
  342. Stay open
  343. Move forward
  344. Have faith
  345. Don’t make plans
  346. Stay in your jammies
  347. Stay in touch with mentors
  348. Relax at the spa
  349. Learn about gun safety
  350. Get a fluoride treatment
  351. Call in a professional
  352. Go to the symphony
  353. Challenge yourself
  354. Listen to an inspiring audio book
  355. Read old journals
  356. Be a caregiver
  357. Have coffee with a friend
  358. Find a “plan B”
  359. Enjoy a holiday tradition
  360. Feel grateful
  361. Binge watch a series
  362. Have breakfast in bed
  363. Discover your core desired feelings
  364. Go Snowshoeing
  365. Whiten your teeth
  366. Reflect on your year

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Self-Care Challenge (Day 366): Reflecting on My Year of Self-Care

blue-green lake with mountains in the distance

This year has been full in so many ways.

Full of challenges, love, experiences, surprises, disappointments, celebrations, gratitude, positivity, loss, and accomplishments.

And my self-care experiences have refilled my soul numerous times.

Yesterday, the 366th and final day of 2016, I spent some time reading my blog entries over the past year. It’s hard to believe the 366 Days of Self-Care Challenge has finally come to a close.

As you might guess, the experience has been a mixed bag, filled with ups and downs and twists and turns. Almost none of what I set out to do played out as I expected.

Surprisingly, I only repeated three activities (two of them unbeknownst to me at the time): being, snacking, and staying open. And I noticed some patterns emerge as I re-read each post, reliving my year of self-care: I read books (a LOT of books). I spent time outside, hiking, gardening, and sitting in my swing. I traveled, learned new things, and explored new aspects of my creativity.

At first, the challenge seemed easy. I started with the more popular activities: manicures, pedicures, getting enough sleep, etc. But as time went on, it became more difficult to come up with unique ideas – and even more challenging to blog consistently every single day (not to mention snap a photo or two).

Even so, looking back I don’t think I would change a thing. I learned more about myself in 2016 than any other year of my life, and I’m preparing to 2017 with a clearer understanding of what truly restores me.

I feel much more equipped to manage life’s ups and downs and celebrate the beautiful moments.

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Self-Care Challenge (Day 363): Unearthing My Core Desired Feelings

The Desire Map book cover

Obviously, I’m on a Danielle LaPorte kick.

After listening to the audio version of her book The Firestarter Sessions (Amazon Associate Link) last week, I realized that I was still craving more. I hadn’t quite pinpointed my core desired feelings, and it was clear that I needed to dig deeper.

The Desire Map (Amazon Associate Link), another of her inspiring books, sounded equally intriguing to me, and after deciding that I couldn’t live without it, I persuaded my husband to make a quick detour to Barnes and Noble. (Nope, this time I could not wait for Amazon Prime. I know, I know.)

This book is the perfect blend of creativity, spirituality, and common sense. In fact, her unique goal-setting approach focuses on feelings rather than the popular metrics-focused approach that SMART goals require.

Identifying our core desired feelings is just the first step. After blowing the dust off those innate desires that have been living within us since birth, we have to do some work. We have to seek out environments that generate those feelings for us. We have to find and explore opportunities and experiences that cultivate those feelings. And we have to surround ourselves with people who nurture those feelings within us.

It’s a softer form of goal-setting, I admit. And while I know that it’s not for everyone, it speaks very loudly to me.

My self-care activity for the day was to distill my core desire feelings down to three words – words that will serve as my guidepost for the coming year. If it doesn’t make me feel beautiful, open and warm, then it simply isn’t going to work for me.

What are your core desired feelings?

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Self-Care Challenge (Day 358): Finding a “Plan B”

A long line at the supermarket

Grocery shopping during the holidays can be excruciatingly painful.

In recent years, I’ve been doing my shopping earlier and earlier, simply because the crowds are more than I can handle. It’s just too frustrating to wait in line for hours, and it isn’t a good use of my time.

But this year my husband and I were a little behind on our holiday tradition of shopping for stocking stuffers, and we found ourselves smack in the middle of a holiday melee.

Honestly, I’ve never seen a grocery store this busy – in almost 40 years, and in any of the seven US cities I’ve lived in. Customers couldn’t even push their carts down the aisle because the lines for the checkout extended to the middle of the store in every aisle. At one point, my husband called me from another end of the store to ask if I just wanted to bail…but then we had an idea.

Since we weren’t shopping for groceries, we had another option. Electronics had a checkout, as did sporting goods. Yes.

What would have been at least an hour wait turned into a 10-minute checkout process. Voila! The rest of the night was ours.

Why do I consider this self-care? Because so often we find ourselves in situations where we feel helpless. We complain about it. We feel frustrated by it. Yet we don’t always consider other options. We don’t look for another way. We become like the giant elephant that doesn’t know he can pull the chain from the ground and walk away.

When have you come up with a great Plan B to save yourself from stress and frustration?

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Self-Care Challenge (Day 356): Being a Caregiver

Headshot of a smooth, red mini dachshund

I was caught totally off guard when my dog got sick. It wasn’t on my schedule. In fact, I had plans to go out of town the following morning to visit a friend for the day. But those plans quickly changed when I noticed my miniature dachshund, Zoey, was having trouble breathing earlier yesterday morning.

She had been sneezing for weeks, but I wrote it off as allergies, or the dry heat of the furnace, which has been on almost constantly when the weather turned cold. Until that morning she’d been eating, drinking, and engaging in all of her normal diva routines.

But it turns out that she has pneumonia. (I didn’t even know dogs could get pneumonia.)

As is the case for most caregivers, when a loved one needs us, we quickly shift gears and jump in, focusing our attention solely on the needs of those who are in greater need. But that focused attention often comes at the expense of our own health, which only impairs our ability to care for others.

Fortunately, this particular situation wasn’t so emergent that minutes mattered. I didn’t have to run out of the house in my underwear. No, this time I had a few minutes to think and plan ahead.

My self-care activity for the day involved focusing on being a good caregiver. I had no idea how long the visit to the vet would take, but it was already 2 p.m. and I was pretty certain that I wouldn’t be home before dark, which meant I would need to get the chickens tucked in safely before leaving. I also had no idea if I’d have a chance to stop to eat, so I tossed some water and a few snacks into my purse before leaving the house–but not before remembering to grab a book too.

It’s a good thing I did, because the first emergency veterinarian didn’t have a vet available due to an emergency surgery. And that added another hour’s drive to our commute as we headed to a second veterinary clinic.

While I waited for the results of Zoey’s x-rays, I read my book. I drank some water. I had a snack.

And when I finally arrived back home around 8 p.m., I didn’t feel starved, I didn’t feel dehydrated, and I didn’t even feel exhausted or flustered. My preparation made the difference. And that made me a better caregiver.

How do you prepare yourself to be a good caregiver?

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Self-Care Challenge (Day 355): Reading Old Journals

A stack of journals

I admit that I haven’t been very good at doing this over the years: re-reading my old journal entries. The truth is, there are usually at least a few experiences that I’d prefer not to relive. The disappointments. The losses. The bury-your-head-in-the-sand embarrassing moments of life. We all have them.

So instead, my journals typically get tucked away into a dark corner of the closet.

But this year my brilliant coach wisely suggested that they be used as a learning tool. I mean, why shouldn’t I put them to good use? I spent hours and hours and hours pouring my heart and soul into them, after all.

So today, my self-care activity was to re-read my journals from 2016. Sure, there are still a few more days left in the calendar year, but most of my recent entries have been reflective in nature, and will probably make more sense if I read them at the end of 2017.

I had no idea how such a simple act could feel so empowering.

It seems I’ve been busy this year. Traveling, taking classes, visiting friends and family, celebrating life’s special moments, writing, and dreaming up copious ideas – some of which I experimented with and some I left on the page.

But it turns out that many of my journal entries have become a reality. I set out to widen my network, to make new friends, to build connections with others who are working toward similar goals. And I’ve done that. Even as an extreme introvert, I’ve done that.

I published a book, something that’s been on my bucket list for years. I sold more than I expected to, and I’ve received encouraging words from many readers.

It’s clear that writing is an undeniable part of my soul.

I’ve also managed to keep up with this self-care challenge. For 355 days now, I’ve been intentionally engaging in some form of self-care. I’ve been experimenting with activities to see which ones are restorative, and which ones feel like work. (To be honest, I wasn’t sure I was going to be able to make it a full year, but it’s been so rewarding that I’ve pushed myself through the rough days even when I really felt like quitting.)

It was hard not to smile as I read through the many twists and turns of my life. In these 12 short months, I’ve considered many different business models, product offerings, and life paths. Some doors opened. Some doors closed. And some I’m still yanking on. But I have to admit, I’m almost more grateful for the doors that have closed because they’ve prevented me from drifting back to where I started this amazing journey.

Much of what I’ve written about over the past year isn’t new. These thoughts, desires, and ideas have been with me for years. I bet if I cracked open a journal from my college years, I’d find many of the same words scrawled across the pages.

My heart seems to know what it wants; my brain just isn’t always open to listening. But with “openness” as one of my theme words for 2017, I have a feeling things will be different.

What is your heart telling you that it wants?

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Self-Care Challenge (Day 354): Listening to Danielle LaPorte’s Firestarter Sessions

A fire burning in an old wood stove

Several years ago, a friend of mine introduced me to Danielle LaPorte’s work. I immediately loved that her approach to manifesting goals is quite different from the popular SMART goal-setting method that most of us are familiar with. (If you’ve read my book Uppward (Amazon Associate Link), then you already know I’m not a fan of the latter method.)

Instead of beating our heads against the wall each time we fall short of the unforgiving SMART goals, LaPorte suggests that we shift our mindset. (Trust me: try it and you’ll be glad you did.)

I had almost forgotten about the Firestarter Sessions (Amazon Associate Link) until another vibrant influencer in my life mentioned it recently. Thankfully, she also suggested listening to the audio version rather than reading the book. (For those who haven’t yet had a chance to hear Danielle LaPorte’s voice, it will seriously lull you into a trance.)

And check out her free workbook for a little taste of what it’s all about.

Yesterday’s self-care activity involved carving out some time to knit while I listened to the Firestarter Sessions. I’ve learned that when I listen while I’m also working with my hands, I absorb messages differently. I hear more of the emotions behind the stories rather than simply the meaning behind the words.

LaPorte’s inspiring words poured over me as I moved the yarn across my needles, mentally preparing myself for the new year.

How do I want to feel? Hmm.

It had been a long time since I’d asked myself that question. Too long.

Obviously, my focus this year has been on self-care: my health and my ability to live up to my fullest potential. I wholeheartedly believe that if we truly want to live our purpose, we must be whole, and good health is our greatest asset when it comes to achieving our goals.

But in my pursuit, I often take the positive energy out of my goals. I set them as if I’m pouring concrete, believing that success is firmly defined by a single outcome: a digit, a number, an amount.

Anything less is failure.

Sure, we can say that failure is an opportunity for learning. (And it is.) But it hardly ever feels that way. It feels more like a slap in the face…a lot of effort for a tad bit of learning.

“What we cannot measure, we cannot improve,” you say?

Well, maybe not.

But according to LaPorte, the pursuit of our goals can also bring us joy – if we are clear on what we truly desire, that is.

Because, isn’t that what we’re really after: a feeling? Confidence. Love. Joy. Connection. Power. Peace. Health. Contribution. And the great thing about feelings is that we get to define them any way we want to.

How do you want to feel?

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Self-Care Challenge (Day 353): Challenging Myself

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Staying in my comfort zone feels, well…comfortable.

Earlier this year, I wrote about my experience with leaning into discomfort after agreeing to be interviewed about my book on video. As an introvert, being on camera isn’t something that comes easy. At first it was extremely awkward, but as time went on it was fine and I wondered why I was so nervous in the first place. Afterward I couldn’t remember why I had made such a big deal about it.

No matter how much we try to resist leaving our zone of comfort, we almost always get pushed into other zones. And change is much easier when I’m the one doing the pushing.

Throughout my self-care journey, a large number of my activities have involved taking a class, reading books, or learning something new. Love of learning is one of my VIA (Values in Action) signature strengths, and it seems I’m always finding new interests or hobbies.

So yesterday, it’s not surprising that while casually perusing a yarn shop, I noticed a beautiful scarf that stole my attention in the middle of the aisle. It was clearly not a beginner’s project, but that somehow didn’t register in my brain. Instead of thinking, “I could never make that!” I heard “how can I make that?” echo inside my head.

How do you challenge yourself?

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