Self-Care Challenge (Day 287): Staying Open

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Staying open to new ideas after I’ve already come to a conclusion on how I want to proceed with something hasn’t always been easy for me. In fact, for most of my adult life I’ve held on so tightly to my master plans that the mere suggestion of there being another way–or (gasp!) a better way–used to make me smoosh my lips together and grind my teeth.

But I must admit, the feeling that comes with remaining open has been a much better way to live, even if it causes me to spend some time redesigning my master plans.

When we’re so tied to a specific outcome that we’re unwilling to even consider an alternative, it just isn’t healthy. Resistance is a waste of energy, and in some instances what we’re really saying is “no” to an easier, smarter, or more efficient ways of doing things.

It’s like saying “yes” to a harder life.

This week I was presented with an interesting opportunity, one that I probably wouldn’t have even considered in the past. But this one happens to align quite well with some of my bigger goals, and I found myself sitting back in my chair tapping my chin with my index finger and thinking, “Would this be a good investment of my time?”

I think it just might be.

Regardless of what I ultimately decide, being open to the possibility of amending my roadmap felt really good. While I do have a clear vision for my future, I’ve learned that not being tied to the outcome, and letting it unfold as it should, is what makes life so fun.

That said, this shift in mindset is part of my self-care practice because it doesn’t come easily for me. I have to recognize when I feel resistant to a new idea. I have to remind myself that most of the time it doesn’t really matter that much how I realize my vision. What matters is that I realize my vision.