Showing Up With Intention: An Interview with Wardrobe Stylist Lisa Fischer

Lisa Fischer Styling headshot

Do you have a personal brand? Are you “showing up” in a way that enbales you to project your unique inner truth? In this podcast, Lisa Fischer of Lisa Fischer Styling shines some light on how the process of establishing a personal brand is a courageous act of self-care.

I’ve always believed that how we look on the outside reflects how we feel on the inside (and vice versa). But I must admit, as an introvert I sometimes like to hide behind neutral colors. Sometimes I kind of like feeling feel invisible.

But on the other hand, I’m not my best self when I’m invisible. And hiding certainly doesn’t put me in a position to use my strengths to bring something of value to the world.

In her consulting practice, Lisa uses style words to help guide her clients toward developing a personal brand. “Wardrobe is a tool,” she explains. “We use it to bring our best self forward.”

A common struggle that many of her clients face in the beginning is (you probably guessed it): getting rid of the crap that no longer serves them. I, for one, have a whole lot of crap shoved in the back of my own closet.

I think you’ll find this interview both encouraging and motivating. Lisa’s wise words of wisdom urge us to stop judging one another and focus on our assets. My biggest takeaway from this interview?

“Don’t put yourself off.”

It’s so easy to do, especially for those of us who tend to get immersed in projects to the point that we forget to care for ourselves.

Lisa offers a number of packages that are designed to fit your needs wherever you happen to be in your style journey. A great place to start is to schedule a complimentary 30-minute Discovery Style Assessment.

Website: www.LisaFischerStyling.com
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisafischerstyling

Self-Care Idea List: 366 Activities for a Beautiful Life

8 Dimensions of Self-Care

Having trouble coming up with fun and interesting self-care ideas?

Last year, I took on a self-care challenge. For each of the 366 days in 2016, I experimented with a new self-care activity and then blogged about it.

What would you add to the list? Be creative and come up with your own bucket list of activities that reflect your personal style, needs and priorities.

  1. Enjoy a fermented food (or learn to ferment something yourself)
  2. Set intentions for the next day, week, month or year
  3. Express gratitude
  4. Take a walk in the woods
  5. Bake whole grain bread
  6. Include strength training exercises at least 2 days each week
  7. Get a haircut
  8. Get vaccinated
  9. Give blood
  10. Buy nothing (give something instead)
  11. Use a pressure cooker
  12. Get equipped for fitness
  13. Tidy up
  14. Drink enough water
  15. Get a pedicure
  16. Travel (without stress)
  17. Enjoy a sunset
  18. Listen to the ocean
  19. Go fishing
  20. Visit a fruit stand
  21. Meet new people
  22. Enjoy the sunshine (and then apply sunscreen)
  23. Overcome a fear
  24. Give yourself a break
  25. Sleep in
  26. Get a massage
  27. Cook with garlic
  28. Journal
  29. Walk and work
  30. Pay taxes
  31. Do “The Work”
  32. Relax by a fire
  33. Peruse the bookstore
  34. Fold laundry
  35. Drink tea
  36. Write a haiku
  37. Take a road trip
  38. Play in the snow
  39. Spend time with friends
  40. Floss
  41. Join (or start) a book club
  42. Eat local
  43. Meditate
  44. Continue education
  45. Use affirmations
  46. Receive gifts
  47. Relax with aromatherapy
  48. Eat colorfully
  49. Accept what is
  50. Volunteer at the food bank
  51. Snuggle with pets
  52. Taste
  53. Shop for groceries
  54. Zentangle
  55. Learn CPR
  56. Reminisce
  57. Garden
  58. Explore new possibilities
  59. Go out for breakfast
  60. Define your “enough”
  61. Change your mind
  62. Chase good weather
  63. Love the middle seat
  64. Cool off with shave ice
  65. Explore new places
  66. Smell the roses
  67. Go to the beach
  68. See the bigger picture
  69. Be a tourist
  70. Think in traffic
  71. Get a mammogram
  72. Read scripture
  73. Make a contribution
  74. Lounge
  75. Be part of a community
  76. Cry
  77. Practice good skin care
  78. Get certified
  79. Prune what’s no longer useful
  80. Press the pause button
  81. Listen
  82. Be quiet
  83. Eat green
  84. Celebrate
  85. Meander
  86. Notice nature
  87. Make the holidays healthier
  88. Plan
  89. Go cycling
  90. Reflect
  91. Recover
  92. Try fermented dairy
  93. Walk the dog
  94. Take a nap
  95. Build a support system
  96. Write a book
  97. Calm down
  98. Be vulnerable
  99. Set boundaries
  100. Laugh
  101. Play games
  102. Dine alone
  103. Walk (in the airport or elsewhere)
  104. Plan a menu
  105. Ask for help
  106. Cook for yourself
  107. Hug a pet
  108. Give gifts of gratitude
  109. Find inspiring spaces
  110. Talk yourself into fitness
  111. Listen to an audio book
  112. Be inspired
  113. Stay in
  114. Understand your impact
  115. Set weekly goals
  116. Use an iron skillet
  117. Stay in touch with friends
  118. Do the dishes
  119. Forgive yourself
  120. Let the oven do it
  121. Go to the doctor
  122. Work in the yard
  123. Savor something
  124. Make new friends
  125. Plant some herbs
  126. Build new skills
  127. Assemble (or reassemble) a first-aid kit
  128. Make a toast to a memory
  129. Shop the farmers’ market
  130. Say thank you
  131. Give feedback
  132. Hug a tree
  133. Take a hike
  134. Read the (entire) Affordable Care Act
  135. Make broth cubes
  136. Bake a cheesecake
  137. Make a breakfast bowl
  138. Use a foam roller
  139. Change your sheets
  140. Eat 5 (to 9) servings of fruits and vegetables each day
  141. Network
  142. Entertain
  143. Sit in stillness
  144. Think positively
  145. Make chicken noodle soup
  146. Do something you don’t want to do
  147. Don’t worry (be happy)
  148. Self-direct your care
  149. Admire art
  150. Eat some cherries (or another in season fruit)
  151. Watch a game
  152. Love lentils
  153. Cultivate awareness
  154. Review your finances
  155. Fuel up for a workout
  156. Celebrate success
  157. Work to physical exhaustion
  158. Take the day off
  159. Eat a big salad
  160. Apologize
  161. Spend time with family
  162. Go sightseeing
  163. Visit a museum
  164. Marvel
  165. Color
  166. Start a bullet journal
  167. Count your blessings
  168. Bake a spaghetti squash
  169. Work in bursts
  170. Drink coffee
  171. Go to the gym
  172. Pick berries
  173. Go to the dentist
  174. Take a yoga class
  175. Track your goals
  176. Lean into discomfort
  177. Stretch
  178. Give gifts
  179. Make yourself a bouquet
  180. Take shorter showers
  181. Test your day for flow
  182. Buy new exercise clothes
  183. Get an eye exam
  184. Set boundaries
  185. Clean your yoga mat
  186. Blend a smoothie bowl
  187. Ferment pickles
  188. Volunteer at a community garden
  189. Take a home-canning class
  190. Bake zucchini bread
  191. Get (and stay) connected
  192. Learn self-defense
  193. Attend a virtual retreat
  194. Envision
  195. Care for your feet
  196. Breathe deeply
  197. Make chicken salad
  198. Go camping
  199. Listen to music
  200. Use a sugar scrub
  201. Window shop
  202. Buy yourself a gift
  203. Make a Thai salad
  204. Organize your recipes
  205. Bake blueberry muffins
  206. Make a (healthy) Waldorf salad
  207. Study
  208. Try a new recipe
  209. Organize your mind
  210. Eat lunch at the park
  211. Do some gratitude journaling
  212. Be proactive
  213. Try again
  214. Brew beer
  215. Rest
  216. Learn from others
  217. Research
  218. Get a scalp massage
  219. Stop
  220. Stargaze
  221. Go floating
  222. Take a moment
  223. Get a manicure
  224. Weigh the pros and cons
  225. Share your story
  226. Travel back in time
  227. Snack
  228. Walk with a friend
  229. Savor salmon
  230. Admire apples
  231. Enjoy a mocktail
  232. Go meatless
  233. Ask for a Box
  234. Indulge in an Acai Bowl
  235. Understand the Science of Happiness
  236. Rediscover Old Recipes
  237. Experiment with Eggplant
  238. Eat (or at least try) Sushi
  239. Carry an EpiPen (if you have been advised to)
  240. Work Outside
  241. Crack Fresh Eggs
  242. Eat Tomatoes (off the vine)
  243. Say No
  244. Buy a New Pillow
  245. Talk About Ideas
  246. Monitor Your Performance
  247. Clean Your Refrigerator
  248. Treat a Minor Injury
  249. Change the Air Filter
  250. Make Moroccan Meatballs
  251. Choose My Circles Wisely
  252. Begin Again
  253. Get Acupuncture
  254. Plan a Vacation
  255. Remember
  256. Try Matcha Tea
  257. Get New Socks
  258. Commit
  259. Speak Up
  260. Prepare a Snack Board
  261. Update Your Wardrobe
  262. Sort & Purge
  263. Tour a Food Forest
  264. Be True To Yourself
  265. Donate to Charity
  266. Coordinate a Walking Meeting
  267. Ask Questions
  268. Get Your Hands Dirty
  269. Pack a Mobile Emergency Kit
  270. Plant a Tribute
  271. Enjoy a Sweet Treat
  272. Connect Dots
  273. Sip Bubbles
  274. Eat Fresh Figs
  275. Celebrate
  276. Melt
  277. Moisturize
  278. Catch Up
  279. Evaluate Your Social Media Activity
  280. Be Negative
  281. Understand Your Personality
  282. Hire a Coach
  283. Read a Book
  284. Spend Quality Time
  285. Create a Manifestation Space
  286. Reconnect with a Friend
  287. Stay Open
  288. Prepare for Emergencies
  289. Set a Deadline
  290. Do Something for Love
  291. Make Space
  292. Cook with rosemary (or other culinary herbs)
  293. Arrive (rather than impose)
  294. Buy coffee for a stranger
  295. Make a vegan dish
  296. Learn more about your body
  297. Just be
  298. Establish a morning ritual
  299. Give a random gift
  300. Try reflexology
  301. Try new exercises
  302. Vote
  303. Experiment with a sourdough starter (or other cultured food)
  304. Organize your personal space
  305. Collaborate
  306. Write down your soul
  307. Learn bonsai
  308. Create an afternoon of self-care
  309. Island (s)hop with a friend
  310. Crochet (or create something)
  311. Rake leaves
  312. Live vicariously
  313. Sit with ambivalence
  314. Gain an understanding of politics
  315. Evaluate what’s essential
  316. Clear your calendar
  317. Ask for what you need
  318. Practice something that’s difficult for you
  319. Maintain financial harmony
  320. Have a kind disagreement
  321. Support a friend
  322. Brainstorm
  323. Learn something new
  324. Rearrange furniture
  325. Decorate
  326. See your favorite band live
  327. Try reiki
  328. Bake a pie
  329. Prepare a special meal
  330. Watch a funny movie
  331. Look up
  332. Do chores early
  333. Make a list
  334. Email yourself ideas
  335. Arrive early
  336. Warm up
  337. Learn to knit (or some other form of art)
  338. Notice the little things
  339. Watch it snow
  340. Drive slowly
  341. Choose theme words
  342. Stay open
  343. Move forward
  344. Have faith
  345. Don’t make plans
  346. Stay in your jammies
  347. Stay in touch with mentors
  348. Relax at the spa
  349. Learn about gun safety
  350. Get a fluoride treatment
  351. Call in a professional
  352. Go to the symphony
  353. Challenge yourself
  354. Listen to an inspiring audio book
  355. Read old journals
  356. Be a caregiver
  357. Have coffee with a friend
  358. Find a “plan B”
  359. Enjoy a holiday tradition
  360. Feel grateful
  361. Binge watch a series
  362. Have breakfast in bed
  363. Discover your core desired feelings
  364. Go Snowshoeing
  365. Whiten your teeth
  366. Reflect on your year

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Self-Care Challenge (Day 366): Reflecting on My Year of Self-Care

blue-green lake with mountains in the distance

Yesterday, on the 366th and final day of 2016, I spent a few hours re-reading my blog entries over the past year. It’s hard to believe that this 366 Days of Self-Care Challenge has finally come to an end. To say the least, the year has been full of challenges, surprises, losses, and celebrations.

Start here to read from Day 1.

It certainly didn’t play out the way I envisioned, but that’s one of the reasons it was so rewarding.

It’s also why “openness” is one of my core desired feelings going into 2017. Surprisingly, being forced out of my comfort zone this past year has felt really good. For someone who has always been a planner (and a control freak, if you ask my close family and friends), it was liberating and exciting to sit with my curiosity, wondering what might happen next.

self-care-activity-logAt first, it was pretty easy to come up with self-care activities. I started with what I knew: manicures, pedicures, getting enough sleep, eating well. You know, the basics. But as time went on it became more challenging to come up with new things to try. And it was even more challenging to carve out time to blog consistently about it every day (not to mention snap a photo).

There were times when I wanted to quit, to move onto something else–the next shiny idea or project. But I honored my commitment to myself because I knew it was important.

Thankfully, I just made a few adjustments and pushed forward.

Early on, I started to notice some patterns emerging. Many of my activities involved books–journaling, reading, writing. And I read A LOT of books last year (67 to be exact, up from 58 in 2015). For me, it doesn’t get much better than reading in solitude, even if it’s just for 15 minutes. In fact, most of my self-care activities were solo adventures. I relish my quiet time. It’s not a luxury; it’s a requirement for my basic functioning.

I also spent a lot of time outside. I made several visits to the ocean, floated the Deschutes river, went for walks in the woods, did some snowshoeing, and spent a lot of time gardening. I explored eleven US cities and traveled to Ambergris Caye, Belize.

Looking back on the experience, I wouldn’t change a thing. There isn’t much I could have done to better prepare myself for the journey ahead anyway. Without a doubt, I learned more about myself in 2016 than any other year of my life. Now, after a year of deep self-exploration, I’m ready to enter 2017 with a clearer understanding of what truly restores me.

This journey has helped me develop a meaningful self-care practice–one that consistently refills my cup and leaves me better suited to love and care for others.

Are you ready to develop your own self-care practice?

Yes, please.

Self-Care Challenge (Day 365): Whitening My Teeth

Purple toothbrush

Yesterday’s self-care activity involved whitening my teeth. I mean, why not greet the new year with a bright smile, right?

Using a whitening kit that I picked up at my last visit to the dentist, just before bed I carefully positioned the trays in my mouth and watched the clock tick.

It was super easy. (In fact, the most difficult part was avoiding coffee and red wine.)

Sometimes it’s the simplest acts of self-kindness that make the biggest difference in how we feel–and that impacts everything else we do (or don’t do) in life.

What will you do for yourself in 2017?

Self-Care Challenge (Day 363): Unearthing My Core Desired Feelings

The Desire Map book cover

Obviously, I’m on a Danielle LaPorte kick.

After listening to the audio version of her book The Firestarter Sessions (Amazon Associate Link) last week, I realized that I was still craving more. I hadn’t quite pinpointed my core desired feelings, and it was clear that I needed to dig deeper.

The Desire Map (Amazon Associate Link), another of her inspiring books, sounded intriguing to me, and after deciding that I couldn’t live without it, I persuaded my husband to make a quick detour to Barnes and Noble. (Nope, this time I could not wait for Amazon Prime. I know, I know.)

This book is the perfect blend of creativity, spirituality, and common sense. In fact, this unique goal-setting approach–which focuses on feelings rather than metrics–is quite disruptive. Move aside, SMART goals.

But identifying our core desired feelings is just the first step. After blowing the dust off of those innate desires that have been living within us since birth, we have to do some work. We have to seek out environments that generate those feelings. We have to find and explore opportunities and experiences that cultivate those feelings. And we have to surround ourselves with people who nurture those feelings within us.

It’s a softer form of goal-setting. And while I know that it’s not for everyone, it speaks quite loudly to me.

My self-care activity for the day was to distill my core desire feelings down to three words–words that will serve as my guidepost for the coming year. If it doesn’t make me feel beautiful, open and warm, then it simply isn’t going to work for me.

Beauty

Openness

Warmth

What are your core desired feelings?

 

Self-Care Challenge (Day 355): Reading Old Journals

A stack of journals

I admit that I haven’t been very good at doing this over the years: re-reading my old journal entries. The truth is, there are usually at least a few experiences that I’d prefer not to relive. The disappointments. The losses. The bury-your-head-in-the-sand embarrassing moments of life. We all have them.

So instead, my journals typically get tucked away into a dark corner of the closet.

But this year my brilliant coach wisely suggested that they be used as a learning tool. I mean, why shouldn’t I put them to good use? I spent hours and hours and hours pouring my heart and soul into them, after all.

So today, my self-care activity was to re-read my journals from 2016. Sure, there are still a few more days left in the calendar year, but most of my recent entries have been reflective in nature, and will probably make more sense if I read them at the end of 2017.

Wow. I didn’t realize that simple act could feel so empowering.

It seems I’ve been quite busy this year. Traveling, taking classes, visiting friends and family, celebrating life’s special moments, writing, and coming up with copious amounts of ideas–some of which I experimented with and some I left on the page.

But it turns out that many of my journal entries have become a reality. I set out to widen my network, to make new friends, to build connections with others who are working toward similar goals. And I’ve done that. Even as an extreme introvert, I’ve done that.

I published a book, something that’s been on my bucket list for years. I sold more than I expected to, and I’ve received encouraging words from readers. Writing is an undeniable part of my soul.

I’ve also managed to keep up with this self-care challenge. For 355 days now, I’ve been intentionally engaging in some form of self-care. I’ve been experimenting with activities to see which ones are restorative, and which ones just feel like more work. (To be honest, I wasn’t sure I was going to be able to make it a full year, but it has been so rewarding that I’ve pushed myself through the rough days even when I really felt like quitting.)

It was hard not to smile as I read through the many twists and turns of my life. In these 12 short months, I’ve considered many different business models, product offerings, and life paths. Some doors opened. Some doors closed. And some I’m still pulling on. But I have to admit that I’m almost more grateful for the doors that have closed because they’ve prevented me from drifting back to where I started this amazing journey.

Much of what I’ve written about over the past year isn’t new. These thoughts, desires, and ideas have been with me for years. In fact, I’d be willing to bet that if I cracked open a journal from my college years, I would find many of the same words scrawled across the pages.

My heart seems to know what it wants; my brain just isn’t always open to listening. But with “openness” as one of my theme words for 2017, I have a feeling things will be different.

What is your heart telling you that it wants?

Self-Care Challenge (Day 354): Listening to Danielle LaPorte’s Firestarter Sessions

A fire burning in an old wood stove

Several years ago, a friend introduced me to Danielle LaPorte’s work. Her approach to manifesting goals is quite different from the popular SMART goal-setting method that most of us are familiar with. (If you’ve read my book Uppward (Amazon Associate Link), then you already know I’m not a fan of the latter method either.)

Instead of beating our heads against the wall each time we fall short of our unforgiving, SMART goals, LaPorte suggests that we shift our mindset. (Trust me; you’ll be glad you did.)

I had almost forgotten about the Firestarter Sessions (Amazon Associate Link) until another vibrant influencer in my life suggested it. Thankfully, she also suggested the audio version rather than the book. (For those who haven’t yet had a chance to hear Danielle LaPorte’s voice, it will seriously lull you into a trance.) Check out her free workbook for a little taste of what it’s all about.

Yesterday’s self-care activity involved carving out some time to knit while I listened to the Firestarter Sessions. I’ve learned that when I listen while I’m also working with my hands, I absorb messages differently. I hear more of the emotions behind the stories rather than simply the meaning behind the words.

LaPorte’s inspiring words poured over me as I moved the yarn across my needles, mentally preparing myself for the new year.

How do I want to feel? Hmm.

It had been a long time since I’d asked myself that question.

My focus this year has been on self-care: my health, my well-being, my ability to live up to my fullest potential. I wholeheartedly believe that if we truly want to live our purpose, we must be whole. And good health is our greatest asset when it comes to being capable of achieving our goals.

But in my pursuit, I often find that I take the positive energy out of my goals. I set them as if I’m pouring concrete, believing that success is firmly defined by a single outcome: a digit, a number, an amount. Anything less is failure. Sure, we can say that failure is an opportunity for learning. (And it is.) But it hardly ever feels that way. (It feels more like a slap in the face…a lot of effort for a tad bit of learning.)

“What we cannot measure, we cannot improve,” you say?

Well, maybe not.

 

According to LaPorte, the pursuit of our goals can also bring us joy–if we are clear on what we truly desire, that is. Success is a feeling. (I must say, this is particularly appealing to the “F” of my INFJ personality type.)

Because isn’t what we’re really after a feeling? Confidence. Love. Joy. Connection. Power. Peace. Health. Contribution. (The great thing about feelings is that we get to define them any way we want to.)

Indeed, I can feel the fire rekindling.

 

Self-Care Challenge (Day 353): Challenging Myself

brown knitting needles

Staying in my comfort zone feels, well…comfortable.

Earlier this year I wrote about my experience with leaning into discomfort after agreeing to be interviewed on camera. As an introvert, this is definitely not something I consider to be one of my strengths by any stretch of the imagination. At first it felt really awkward, but as time went on it was fine. In fact, afterward I couldn’t remember why I made such a big deal about it.

No matter how much we may try to resist leaving our zone of comfort, we almost always get pushed into other zones. And I’ve learned that change is much easier when I’m the one doing the pushing.

Throughout my self-care journey this year, a large number of my activities have involved taking a class, reading books, or learning something new. Love of learning is definitely one of my VIA signature strengths.

It seems I’m always finding new interests or hobbies. For example, a friend of mine once invited me to a bead show, all with the sole intention of having me pick out some beads that she would eventually make into a necklace for me.

Nope.

Instead, I loaded up on supplies and set out to learn how to make my own jewelry. I couldn’t help myself. I loved the idea of a challenge.

So yesterday, it’s probably not surprising that while casually perusing a yarn shop, I noticed a beautiful scarf that nearly paralyzed me in the middle of the aisle. It was clearly not a beginner’s project, but that somehow didn’t register in my brain.

Instead of thinking, “I could never make that!” I heard “how can I make that?” echo inside my head.

How do you challenge yourself?

 

Self-Care Challenge (Day 346): Staying in My Jammies

Pink Flowers

When was the last time you stayed at home in your pajamas all day?

For me it was yesterday.

Knowing that I didn’t have to leave the house for anything, I decided to stay snug in my jammies for the remainder of the day. Why? Because I wanted to. And, well, also because I could.

I was already deep in relaxation mode after making zero plans the day before, and soon realized that I had nothing to get ready for–no obligations outside of preparing meals. And it was heavenly.

I like to schedule event-free weekends at least once a quarter, if I can. It’s a fantastic way to recover from life’s busyness, and the holiday season is an especially great time for a “no plans” weekend.

Quiet. A warm fire. Movies. Books. Tea. Cozy pajamas. Self-care.

Yes, I do believe I will.

Self-Care Challenge (Day 345): Not Making Plans

A fire burning in an old wood stove

As I continue to explore self-care this year, I’m learning a lot about myself in the process. What refills my cup? What do I need to be at my best? Which of the endless self-care activities are truly restorative and which are depleting?

Answering these questions has helped me develop an ongoing self-care practice that gives me a greater sense of balance. It keeps me focused on what’s most important, sifting out the distractions. It helps me say ‘yes’ to things that align with my inner truth, and ‘no’ to things that have a negative impact on my health.

Yesterday, not making plans was my daily act of self-care. It felt so nice not to have a lengthy to do list that required me to run errands, clean the house, or go shopping. Instead, I enjoyed sitting by a warm fire and watching movies with my husband.

As an introvert, I have found that planning ahead to not make any plans is one of the kindest gifts I can give myself.

What refills your cup?