While chatting with a friend one day, I casually mentioned that I wanted to experience my life to the fullest, to squeeze the proverbial lemon. My friend’s response? “I don’t mind giving it a crank or two, but you want to steamroll your lemons!” It’s true. I probably do streamroll my lemons.
And that’s probably also why the idea of lifestyle design is so appealing to me. Knowing that we have the ability to co-create our lives is an empowering realization.
These words from George Bernard Shaw have always resonated with me on a deep level:
I enjoy taking an active role in my life. That’s who I am. I like to make lists. I enjoy using my Self-Care Planner* to schedule tasks — days, weeks, and sometimes even months in advance. Quite frankly, planning increases my chances for living out my future vision.
But while I know the value of structure, I also understand that there are times when it makes more sense to toss out itineraries. Staying open allows for new opportunities and experiences that we may not have considered.
Balancing structure and spontaneity is tricky.
Whether you prefer to squeeze or steamroll your lemons is probably tied closely to your personality. As an INFJ, I like the feeling that comes with accomplishment. I like to check boxes on my to-do list. It makes me feel alive to know that I’m making a contribution to the world.
So which one are you…a squeezer or a steamroller?
If you steamroll your lemons like I do, then you might have a tendency to overfunction at times. You may have been described intense by others. And there might be some value in adding a little planned spontaneity to your life. I spent three weeks traveling in Europe by campervan, and it was a life-changing experience.
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