My husband and I were discussing our differing philosophies on life recently – Jeremy is much more laid-back while I, on the other hand, am frequently described as being “intense” – and I mentioned that I wanted to experience life to the fullest, to squeeze the proverbial lemon. His response was, “I don’t mind giving it a crank or two, but you want to run a steamroller over it!”
Well, that’s probably true.
I mean, I want to enjoy life’s lemonade as much as the next person, and I am finally learning to let go enough to understand the value of spontaneity…er, planned spontaneity as I like to call it. But I also enjoy pursuing goals and taking an active role in my life. That’s who I am. I like to make lists. I enjoy scheduling my tasks in advance – days, weeks and sometimes even months in advance. However, there is a definite sense of freedom in tossing out itineraries too. It’s liberating to experience life without an agenda from time to time because it allows us to make ourselves open to opportunities, experiences and lessons that aren’t part of our tightly packed agendas. It allows us to be more grateful for the things around us and to experience life through all of our senses.
Our differing philosophies have served us well over the years. He can persuade me to relax when I need to, and I can light a fire under him when he needs it. The challenge with living a good life is to live with intent while not taking it all too seriously. Expressing our authenticity by using our strengths and gifts while also remaining open to receive life’s spontaneous blessings is the sweet spot.
It’s a balancing act like everything else.
Whether you prefer to squeeze or steamroll lemons probably depends on how you learned to experience life as a child. I like the feeling I get from accomplishing things. I like to cross things off my list and to look back at what I’ve achieved each day. It makes me feel alive and that I’m contributing something good to this world. That likely comes from my Midwest upbringing and the time I spent on our small family farm. There is no right or wrong here, it’s just interesting to see how differently we all choose to approach life.
So which one are you…a squeezer or a steamroller?